孩子要上幼儿园了，真怕TA有分离焦虑，爸爸妈妈们应该怎么办？
Here is a new students’parents’guide to dealing with Separation Anxiety.
什么是分离焦虑？
What is separation anxiety?
分离焦虑指的是孩子和自己熟悉的主要代养人、环境分离所产生的焦虑、不安，等不愉快的情绪反应。
Separation anxiety refers to the unhappy emotional reactions caused by the separation of a child from his or her primary caretaker or environment.
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幼儿一听到去幼儿园就开始哭闹、烦躁发脾气。
When a child hears it is time to go to the kindergarten,he or she begins to cry or throw a temper tantrum.
有的孩子甚至出现感冒、发烧，半夜惊醒等现象。
Some children even appear to have a cold,fever,or wake up in the middle of the night along with other associated phenomena.
孩子变得特别粘父母，生怕又离开爸爸妈妈。
Children then become very attached to their parents for fear of leaving their parents again.
孩子为什么会产生分离焦虑？
Why do children develop separation anxiety?
忽然从父母身边离开，孩子会觉得爸爸妈妈不见了，是不是爸爸妈妈不要我了，他们会产生被遗弃感，不安全感。
Suddenly leaving their parents’sides,children will feel that mom and dad have disappeared,which makes them wonder“do mom and dad not want me”,creating a sense of abandonment and insecurity.
这个年龄阶段的孩子语言表达情绪的能力是有限的，所以就会用大哭大闹的方式表达自己的不安全的感受，想要爸爸妈妈回到身边。
Children at this age are limited in their ability to express emotions verbally,so they will cry and shout to express their insecure feelings,hoping it will make their parents come back to them.
如何应对孩子的入园分离焦虑？
How to deal with children's separation anxiety?
给孩子一个提前心里铺垫
Give the child some emotional preparation
让孩子对幼儿园有一些初步的了解和认识，这样等真正入园便不会对幼儿园所有的事物感到陌生。
Let the child have some preliminary recognition and understanding of the kindergarten,so that when they enter the real kindergarten all the things around them won’t seem strange and unfamiliar.
在家多给孩子讲一些关于幼儿园的事情，让孩子从平日里对幼儿园这个地方产生熟悉感。
At home,tell the children more about the kindergarten,let the children become more familiar with the kindergarten daily through methods.
比如，经常传达一些在幼儿园会有许多好朋友一起做游戏，一起唱儿歌学知识等一些轻松愉快的信息：
Such as often conveying how there will be a lot of good friends to play games together with in the kindergarten,sing children's songs to gain more knowledge and learn information in a relaxed and happy way.
让孩子对幼儿园产生好奇和期待
Get children to have curiosity and expectation for the kindergarten
有条件的家长也可以在入园前经常带孩子从幼儿园门口经过，并告诉孩子：
Parents who are able to can often bring their children to pass by the gate of the kindergarten before entering the kindergarten and tell them:
“哇，宝宝很快就要来这个漂亮的幼儿园了，里边有大大的滑梯、彩虹跑道、有爱你的老师和喜欢你的小朋友、你的幼儿园真的太棒了！”
"Wow,baby you are coming to this beautiful kindergarten soon,with big slides,rainbow running tracks,teachers who love you and kids who like you inside.Your kindergarten is really great."
读一些有帮助的幼儿绘本
Read some helpful picture books for children
给家长推荐一些入园的幼儿绘本，可以在入园前经常读给自己的孩子听，帮助宝贝从孩子的角度更生动有趣的认识幼儿园。
Here are some recommended picture books for parents to read to their children before entering the kindergarten,so as to help them get to know the kindergarten more vividly and in more interesting ways from the perspective of children.
《我爱幼儿园》
《妈妈一定来接你》
《幼儿园的一天》
《幼儿园里的秘密》
《大卫上学去》
《小阿力的大学校》
预演接送场景
Rehearse the pick-up and drop-off scenarios
告诉宝贝，早上去幼儿园时要和爸爸妈妈说再见。下午放学的时候爸爸妈妈会等在幼儿园门口等你一起回家。
Tell the babies to say goodbye to mom and dad when they go to kindergarten in the morning.Then tell them,in the afternoon after school,mom and dad will wait for you at the gate of the kindergarten.
借助过渡性客体
With the aid of transitional objects
它们可以帮助孩子适应陌生的环境，在陌生情境中帮助孩子学会自我安慰，逐渐完成心理上的断乳，缓解孩子的分离焦虑。
They can help the child adapt to the strange environment,help him or her learn to comfort himself or herself in the strange situation,gradually complete the psychological weaning,and relieve the separation anxiety of the child.
如果孩子特别难适应幼儿园，可以尝试让孩子在家挑一个他喜欢的物品带到学校去。
If your child finds it especially difficult to get used to kindergarten,try to have him or her choose an object he or she likes at home and bring it to school.
例如他最喜欢的毛绒小熊，她搂着睡觉的小毯子等，这些孩子熟悉的物件在心理学上称为过渡性客体，可以暂时替代主要抚养人的角色。
For example,his favorite stuffed teddy bear,her cuddly sleeping blanket,and so on.
These children's familiar objects are known in psychology as transitional objects that can temporarily replace the role of primary caregiver.
多肯定孩子在校的表现
More affirmation of the child's performance in school
让孩子觉得在幼儿园做的事情原来是很有意义和价值的，是被父母关心重视的，会激发他对幼儿园的好感。
Lets the children feel that the things they do in the kindergarten are meaningful and valuable,and capture the parents’care and attention,which will stimulate and enhance their liking of the kindergarten.
孩子放学回来家后，父母务必要抛开手机专注的陪孩子玩一会儿。
When the children get home after school,parents must neglect their phones and focus their attention on playing with their children for a while.
问问孩子今天在幼儿园过的怎么样啊，等孩子分享完，爸爸妈妈也可以分享自己今天做了哪些事儿。
Ask the children what they did at kindergarten during the day and then,when the children are done sharing,parents can share what happened during their day.
最后一定要表扬孩子今天在幼儿园某一个表现。
Finally,parents should praise children on their performance at kindergarten that day.
比如：“宝宝今天自己在学校午睡啦！真是长大了，太棒啦！”“哇，宝宝交到新朋友了呀，妈妈为你感到开心呢！”
For example:"Baby,you took a nap at school by yourself today!Look at you,growing up,that's great!""Wow,baby you made new friends.Mommy is so happy for you!"
每个孩子入园分离焦虑的反应方式和入园适应时间都可能有所不同。
Each child may respond differently to separation anxiety and require a different amount of time to adjust.
给予我们的孩子一定的适应时间和包容，调整好作为父母自己的心态，接纳孩子成长的过程。
Give our children an appropriate amount of time to adapt and be tolerant,adjust our own mentality as parents,and accept the process of children's growth.
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